There is something very French about this one, and I’m loving it! Inspired by the newest in the Sel Rosé jewelry shop, the Rae Gold Bar Studs.
Time out! Let’s take a break from planned out posts and series (which just happen to be a lifesaver when it comes to maintaining consistency on a blog). I just want to process where I am in life right now.
Don’t you miss blogs that are like that? Where the author treats it like a diary and shares about their day or week whether it’s “on-brand” or not? I kind of hate the term “on-brand” now. It makes sense for a business to have a specific look and subject matter, but when it keeps you from being real half the time, it can get old.
I’ve been gritting my teeth lately and my shoulders have been tight. I’m holding a lot of stress in my jaw and upper back. It’s like I can’t relax. When I think of feeling relaxed, I picture a wet noodle loosely flopping around, but right now I feel like a dry noodle, stiff and straight and brittle.
My skin’s a mess too and I haven’t had anything green to eat in a while. So, I’m stressed, spotty, brittle and not eating well, but I’m also incredibly thankful for the reason why.
I just started a new part-time job. In addition to running Sel Rosé and working as an office manager for a local non-profit, I’m a receptionist a couple of days a week in a medical clinic. I don’t wear scrubs because I never do anything medicinal, I answer phones, take care of billing, and do a myriad of other tasks in dress pants and nice flats. It’s fun getting up and out of the house in business attire and I enjoy what I’m doing! Two days a week isn’t too much by any means, and a lot of you are probably rolling your eyes that such a small commitment would stress me out, but it’s not the two days themselves, it’s figuring out how to do everything else the other three days of the week!
How do I organize better to stay on top of jewelry orders, blog posts, and all of the special stuff that comes along like marketing opportunities and planning for the holidays? What have I gotten used to that will have to change like having an hour quiet time in the morning or long lunches with friends? And, I didn’t come out of the womb knowing how to do everything related to being a receptionist. I’ve had to learn a lot in a very short period of time, and sometimes, I still have questions.
Eventually, all of those questions will be answered, I’ll have become much better at staying organized, and what is new will become normal, but it’s that uncomfortable in-between space that I’m acknowledging right now. Retha Nichole from the podcast “My Light Still Shines” posted a graphic on Instagram this morning that said “Be brave enough to be bad at something new.” A part of me can’t wait to be past this stressful and pressure-filled phase (and man, I hope my skin clears up) and on to a time when I can breathe better, but I won’t get there by not being brave enough to be bad at it for a little while! And there is something beneficial about feeling this way.
I had been praying that the Lord would provide me with another part-time job, preferably something where I could be out and around people, then come home and be done with it for the day. That’s exactly what he gave me, and I am so thankful. But, again, I’m acknowledging this feeling and the fact that it’s okay to feel it. And, I wanted to say to any of you who have felt that way before or are feeling it right this minute, It’s okay to feel pressured and stressed out by something new, even if it’s something you asked for. This feeling of weakness can be used as a reminder of how we are always weak and in need of God’s strength. I have felt so aware of Him over the last few days because I feel my need of Him more acutely. That’s awesome! Sitting in that weakness and thanking Him for His provision can only be a good thing.
I want to talk for a moment about why we’re all here. There is often confusion around this question. The other day, I heard Jim Carrey spouting existentialism on Youtube, adamantly declaring in an interview that none of us really exist, that life itself is an illusion and nothing has meaning.
Wouldn’t it be horrifying if that were true? If we didn’t really exist and nothing in the universe had meaning. It is downright depressing that people actually believe that.
The more adjusted folks in the self-help world say that we’re all here to be our best selves and give back in some way, that life is about making your dreams come true and reaching your potential. Hey, at least they believe that we’re here for a reason! But they’re still missing the mark. I’ve sub-consciously affirmed the self-help mentality in my lifetime, but now I’m ready to voice something completely different.
Here is what I believe to be true:
Figuring out myself and my purpose is all a big distraction. This isn’t about me. I’m not here to perfect the 7 habits, no matter how helpful they are. I’m not here to make all of my wildest dreams come true. I’m not here to enjoy safety and prosperity for the rest of my life. I’m not here to gain the adoration and favor of the masses or even experience as much of planet earth as possible. I am here to do the will of my Father. I am here to see my God do his thing in my life and the lives of the world, to fight against the powers that resist good, and enjoy the best of His kingdom.
That’s why I am here! And, I’ll say it again, everything else is just a big distraction. Pursuing your own dreams sounds awesome, but you won’t feel awesome in your soul on any other path than the one that corresponds with his mission.
What I have begun to realize lately is that while faith in Jesus Christ is the first step in assuming a universe impacting role, we don’t actually assume it until we begin paying attention. There are opportunities everywhere to live intentionally for the truth, and the Lord has specific ones in place for each of us, but we must stop chasing what we think we’re here for and begin humbly listening to his guidance.
When you feel a prodding to contact someone in your church just to see how they are, or to begin writing a book, or to ask a question, send an email, say a prayer, or take up flying lessons…often those are opportunities we are supposed to respond to. The more we pay attention, listen for our next assignment, and take the leap to do it, the more He will give us to do, and the more life we will live. Not doing so will by no means thwart the Lord’s plan, but we will miss out on some extraordinary opportunities!
None of us are likely to hear a voice from the skies saying “Your mission, should you choose to accept it…” For whatever reason, that’s not how God often interacts with us anymore. He uses the Bible, the voices of godly people, and the holy spirit who often does little more than whisper.
We are here to be aware of that whisper and do his earth shaking, mountain moving will here on earth. That’s the existing that knocks existentialism’s teeth out.
Call it living on assignment, living with a mission, or living with purpose, but I’d just like to start calling it “living.”
I think most people know about opal, and it’s a gorgeous stone, but there’s also such a thing as pink opal, and I decided to highlight it today for Sel Rosé’s birthstone series. This color is stunning to me. It’s so soft and pure.
Whose having a birthday this month, and have you ever heard of this kind of opal?
If you read my tribute to Pantone’s fall colors last week, you know that I love each and every one of them. Color in general is one of my favorite things! Because of this love, I decided to incorporate the 2017 fall colors into a fun freebie! Here are 10 free prints designed by me, ready to be used as phone wallpaper, pretty frame fillers, or whatever you want, featuring each of the 2017 fall colors and 10 of my favorite quotes about fall! The above Nora Ephron quote with Tawny Port is one of my favorite ones!
Pop your email address in the box below, and I’ll send you a link to download them all. You can take your pick! Let me know which is your favorite! 🙂
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I spent the evening last night looking at the moon, Saturn, and the space station through a very powerful telescope out in front of my house. It was a spontaneous neighborhood stargazing party. Little things like that make me happy, particularly when they’re unplanned. I have lived in the same spot for five years now and had barely spoken to some of my close neighbors until last night. How does that happen? Maybe bonding over the universe’s magnitude and our smallness sped up the rate of relationship development, somehow. 🙂
Here are some links to peruse this weekend! I hope yours is quiet and peaceful!
I found this…
I always find it fascinating to see what colors Pantone chooses as the “colors of the season” or the “color of the year,” and sometimes, I scratch my head in confusion over why in the world they chose the ones they did. But, this year, I love them all! And, I love them so much I made collages of each one… Enjoy!
I wrote a blog post a couple of years ago called “My Jedi Mind Trick for Reading the Bible Every Day.” You might want to read about it if you haven’t because it really does work for me. Part of the trick is referring to my quiet time in a way that makes it impossible to ignore. For the longest while I’ve been calling it a “Time of Thanks.”
But, I realized something ironic yesterday… I tend to skip the giving thanks portion of the “Time of Thanks.”
You can’t have joy if you don’t have gratitude. That is what I have discovered this year. And discovering is about all I have done. I still haven’t begun to express my gratitude.
This weekend, I am going to focus on finding 5 things I can verbally say “thank you” for. I challenge you to do the same! Things that go beyond someone holding a door for you or saying you look nice. Things that impact your daily existence. Thank somebody, and then thank the Lord. Thank a family member who looks after you or somehow makes your life easier. Thank your friend who listens and doesn’t judge you. Thank your pastor for bringing the Word to you every Sunday.
Say “thank you,” and feel blessed.
I’ll start with you. Thank you for reading my blog and supporting Sel Rosé. You don’t know how much it means to me. I have more purpose in my day because if it. 🙂
Pass on the thanks!
To reach back into my childhood and quote beloved Alabama folk singer Allen Levi, “Life is hard when you look like a cotton ball.”
This past summer, I considered trying a self-tanner for the first time. I came pretty close, then realized it wasn’t a road I wanted to go down. I know plenty of women who use self-tanner and look lovely, but it sounds like a headache to me. I would rather learn to love my natural coloring. First of all, it’s easier, but there are also benefits to being pale that aren’t often discussed. Here are 5 things to remember if you are pale and struggling to embrace your skin tone:
1.) I mentioned self-tanners, but let’s also mention natural tanning. If you are out in the sun for any length of time without sunscreen, even if you are one of the lucky ones who don’t burn, you are doing irreparable damage to your skin. Shielding yourself from the sun keeps you pale, but also keeps your skin looking young and healthy later in life.
2.) Pale porcelain skin has historically been synonymous with beauty, class, and elegance. This really hasn’t changed. If you want proof, consider how much adoring attention the following actresses get: Emma Stone, Nicole Kidman, Cate Blanchett, Anne Hathaway, Emma Watson, Dakota Fanning, Amanda Seyfried, Lily Collins, Emilia Clarke, Anna Kendrick, Amy Adams, Liv Tyler, Jessica Chastain, Zooey Deschanel, Karen Gillan, Elle Fanning, Saoirse Ronan, Lily James, Lea Seydoux, and I could go on. Their fair skin is seen as a facet of their beauty, not a detractor.
3.) If you are at all worried about the blemishes on your limbs that are even more visible on pale skin, there is a red carpet trick you could utilize. I would imagine it’s a lot less of a hassle than maintaining self-tanner. First step is applying Mac Studio Face & Body Foundation to the parts of your arms and legs that are bare. Apparently, Mac also makes a literally white-colored foundation, so if the lightest shade isn’t pale enough, you can mix white with it until it matches your particular shade of pale! Then, use something on top with sheen like this. Doesn’t that sound easier than paying for spray tans or worrying about blotchy self-tanner application?
4.) There is something powerful about embracing what is natural. Take one of the actresses in my list up there, Emma Stone. She has set herself a part from other actresses by being real and authentic. A lot of that has to do with how she presents herself. She isn’t trying to be Kim Kardashian or Snooki; her look is based on acceptance, not renovation. That kind of confidence builds a reputation for authenticity!
5.) You are modeling something that has impact on others. When people see you working to emphasize what is natural about your body instead of fighting against it, they notice. And for many people who feel pressure to change everything about themselves, seeing your self-acceptance is encouraging. I do believe that little girls watch the women in their lives and emulate their behavior. What does it say to them when they see women working so hard to change their skin color?
Stay fair, my fair friends! And, if your skin is naturally tan or dark, stay that way too! You were beautifully and wonderfully made!
(And, Allen Levi’s song mentioned above.)
Pause for a moment and ask yourself this question:
“How often have I missed an opportunity because I was afraid of embarrassing myself?”
Did many moments come to mind?
I am haunted by memories of times when I should have spoken or taken a chance but was too paralyzed by fear to open my mouth. The really sad thing is, I wasn’t afraid of anything life threatening, just embarrassment.
It is almost a sickness with humans to be concerned with what other people think of us, but it affects us all: when something could potentially cause us to blush, we hesitate to do it. Even if it’s something really amazing or really necessary, even when it’s a question of doing the right thing, we would rather not risk the shame.
I discovered blogger Paul Angone and his blog, “All Groan Up” a few months ago, and he wrote an excellent post about this called, “The Real Risk of Embarrassment.” In it, he says:
“The possibility for embarrassment and greatness, usually exist in the same space. It’s difficult to remove one and not the other. When you do, you exist in the middle. Mediocrity your brand. No one saying a thing about you — good or bad. Why would they?”
That phrase, “the possibility for embarrassment and greatness, usually exist in the same space,” is what I have been pondering over the last couple of weeks. I am guilty of avoiding potential embarrassment by keeping my head down and not charging forward when I should. But, if I keep doing that, achieving greatness is impossible.
And greatness doesn’t have to mean something overly ambitious or impressive. Sometimes, we’re called to do small things. But big or small, if it’s embarrassing, we would rather ignore the voice of the Spirit when he tells us to do it.
(Yes, I went there. As believers, when we know we should do something and don’t, it’s ignoring the Spirit’s guidance.)
Embarrassment be damned, greatness is at stake. A life filled with color and memories is at stake. Doing the right thing is at stake. And, most importantly, glorifying the Father is at stake.
Don’t allow the fear of embarrassment to keep you from living the kind of life you ultimately want. You think blushing is no fun? Try regret… It’s too much to risk!